A few weeks ago I removed the contact form from my blog. I wish I could say it was a decision I had thought over and deeply contemplated before I did it but it wasn’t. It was a knee-jerk reaction but I’m really glad I did it.
The problem I was having was this:
There are a lot of really mean-spirited people out there in the world and they love using contact forms.
The contact form was the same simple easy-to-use generic contact form you see on a lot of websites and blogs. It asked the correspondent to type in their name and email address then write their message in the box below. Then click submit. As soon as they clicked the little submit button their message to me magically appeared straight in my inbox. I didn’t have to give out my e-mail address and all was right with the world.
The big issue is that contact forms do not require validation of the sender’s email address. I’ve received e-mails from people with email address at domains like suckmy****.com and yourea*****.com which are (obviously) not real email domains. The senders are just typing in random cruel addresses so that they can send the message and prevent me from sending a reply.
These messages have come in response to a few things I’ve written.
They feel the need to call me a selfish insecure b**** because I didn’t appreciate someone having a crush on my husband. They feel the need to call me a whore because I lived with my husband before we were married. They feel the need to ridicule my faith. I even received a contact form email from someone who was furiously mad at me because I’m gay-friendly and have gay fans on my Facebook page (and seriously…if you have an issue with that I’m definitely not the right person/blog for you).
Enough was enough so I removed it.
Now, my e-mail address is available on my blog. There has not been a decrease in legitimate e-mails but there has been a decrease in SPAM e-mail and bullying e-mails.