Why I Read Your Blog

The top reasons why I do read your blo and why I'll keep coming back.

Lately I’ve been reading so many posts about “Why I Stopped Reading Your Blog” or “Why I Won’t Read Your Blog” and honestly, I’ve had just about enough of the negativity. I don’t want to tell other bloggers all the things they are doing wrong because we already get enough judgement from people who don’t understand blogging. I read a lot of blogs (I mean A LOT of blogs, like hundreds of blogs) and after the last “why I stopped reading your blog” post I read I decided it was time to reflect and tell you exactly why I do read your blog.

When I said I read hundreds of blogs I wasn’t exaggerating. I subscribe to a lot of blogs on BlogLovin’ and I check that feed every morning before work. I subscribe to other blogs via e-mail subscriptions and I read through those on my lunch break. I follow others on social media and various blogging groups I’m a member of and I’ll browse through those at night. I’d guess that I read 20-30 blogs per day, throughout the day, and no it’s not always the same blogs every day because even my favorite bloggers have some posts I don’t click through to read. How do I decide which posts to read?

You’re Being Vulnerable

If you’re opening your heart up and letting your words pour out you can bet I’m going to click through to read it. I love feeling like someone is having a conversation with me and providing insight into their thoughts and feelings. I like when you get deep and tell me what’s weighing on your heart, what’s troubling you, what’s inspiring you and what is going on inside. I love these posts because they make you feel more human to me and they make me feel like I’m not alone in my self-doubt and struggles.

You’re Teaching Me

I won’t lie. If it’s a home DIY tutorial I’m not clicking it but that’s because I live in an apartment in the heart of Atlanta and I don’t DIY anything. I call maintenance if something needs to be fixed. DIY and me do not mix and I have no desire to try to learn. If you’re sharing a recipe, a fashion tutorial, a cleaning tip, self-improvement advice or a new app you’ve learned about I’m clicking. You’re sharing knowledge I want so I’m reading because I want to be “in the know”, you know?

You Look Good

I’m a sucker for a good fashion post. I’m not good at writing them myself but I do love scouring through your fashion posts especially if you look amazing in that first photo. Fashion photos draw me in and if you’re wearing something I love – a cute dress, whimsical shirt, statement accessory – I’m going to read it and I’m going to click your affiliate links and I’m going to check out your recommendations.

You’re Being Positive

There is so much negativity out in the world that I really dig it when you’re being uplifting. Are you sharing cute pictures of your cat or your dog or your kids? Telling me about a great trip you took or an awesome party you had over the weekend? Are you sharing a fantastic piece of scripture that spoke to your heart or how you did something to pay-it-forward? Are you talking about how you accomplished a goal or are you encouraging others to follow their passions? If you are then you can bet that I’m reading it.

I don’t really care about your punctuation or if you make the occasional grammar or spelling mistake. I don’t mind if you’re photos aren’t the greatest or if you reply to every single comment that I leave. I don’t even care if you’re not always posting on a 100% consistent schedule (although please don’t disappear from me for weeks at a time). I also don’t care if we don’t always see eye-to-eye.

What I do care about is that you’re relatable and you’re sharing from the heart. Keep on doing that and we’re cool. You keep writing and I’ll keep reading, agreed?

What brings you back to a blog over and over again? Why do you read the ones you read? 

Ashley LaMar
Ashley bounces between Atlanta, GA + Charleston, WV with her husband and two small dogs for life and work. If she’s not writing or blogging, she can usually be found cooking, reading, or watching baseball. Follow her on Twitter @ashleyfromfbl

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  1. This is great!!! My favorite blogs to read are the ones that I feel like I “connect” with! Its almost like we are long lost best friends!! It makes me so happy when I feel like the post was for me! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Happy Monday!

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    • Thanks Megan! I’m the same way. I love when I feel like the blogger is talking to me, like a friend, rather than being all formal and stuffy which makes me feel cold. The warm inviting ones are my favorites.

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  2. Oh lady YES! I’m so dang sick of all the negativity and the “don’t do this” kinds of posts. Blogging is a NO RULES environment, and don’t let anyone try to convince you otherwise. I love this so much! And I agree–that’s totally what keeps me coming back to a blog–if I feel like I’m connecting with the actual blogger!

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    • THANK YOU Jo! I read one the other day that was SO harsh. I even felt compelled to comment on it and tell the blogger just how harsh it was. I mean, I got her points, but the way with which it was presented was mean-spirited. It’s so much kinder when you tell people what you love about what they do instead of telling them what they are doing wrong.

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    • Thanks Whitney! I stopped by last night and read a few of your posts. I especially loved the one where you discussed being a Mormon and the reactions from people when they find out. I think you’re amazing and I followed you on BlogLovin’. ๐Ÿ™‚

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      • Thanks Ashley for checking me out!! I was really just being sarcastic with my comment, but I’m glad you loved my post and that you followed. Makes me feel SO special ๐Ÿ™‚

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  3. Nice web site. I enjoyed the post about your commute and Olive Tree bible software. I have been using that for a long time. I just started a 1 Minute Bible Study Blog: bibledog88.wordpress.com. Stop by sometime.

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    • Aw @racheltheavidappetite:disqus you made my day! Thank you for that sweet comment. I love positivity. In fact, I almost named my blog Silver Linings but then I thought about Silver Linings Playbook and opted against it. I’ll make a note to stop by your blog and poke around a bit tonight too. Nothing like returning the blogging love, especially to others who dig the positive heartfelt stuff.

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  4. Girl, I needed this today! Thank you for the refreshing look on blogging and the positive vibes! I’m going to link this post to my blog tomorrow!

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    • Thanks so much Chelsie! I stopped over earlier and took a quick look around b/c I saw some traffic coming in from your blog. I’m going to visit a bit more tonight b/c I love getting to know new blogging peeps. I’m so happy that this post stuck with so many people. I’m just not down with the negativity toward fellow bloggers.

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    • Well hooray for making you smile! That’s what I love to hear/see especially from new visitors. I get tired of reading so much about the “rules” and what I do that turns people away. I don’t want to read the debbie downer posts. I mean, that turns me off quicker than anything. I’m so glad you stopped by today Chelsea. I’m not sure if you have a blog (since you didn’t mention it) but I’m guessing you probably do since you checked out a post about why I read them. ๐Ÿ˜‰ If it’s linked to your Disqus profile I’ll check it out tonight but if it’s not would you send me the link so I can visit you?

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  5. I love how positive this is and I agree with all of it. There’s so much GOOD stuff to read out there, let’s focus on that! Love this post and I will definitely be back to read more of your posts since I love your positive approach! I grew up in Atlanta, so it’s my home town (even though I don’t live there now, my family and numerous friends still do!), so the fact that you live there, makes me like you even more! lol ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • Hi Vicky! I’m so happy that you stopped by and I’m glad you dig the positivity. There is negativity to be found everywhere but sometimes we have to dig deep to find the good stuff out there. It’s a conscious effort sometimes to focus on what’s good in the world but it’s there. It’s just a matter of perspective and I try to keep mine on the joyful side.

      I love Atlanta! My husband was born/raised here but I only moved here this past July. I love it though. It’s such a great city! I told my husband if I was moving to Atlanta then I was moving TO Atlanta so we moved to Midtown so we could be right in the middle of everything. I printed out an Atlanta “bucket list” from a fellow blogger a few nights ok so now I’m off to check everything off the list. Wish me luck!

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  6. This is awesome. I agree that the “Why I don’t read your blog” posts are negative. Every blogger is at a different stage and blogs for a different reason. If someone is blogging mostly as a personal journal, who cares if their design isn’t the best or the colors are “off”. I have decided I read blogs because they are about things I like. I try and turn a negative into a positive. Everyone has something they like to write about, and the same goes for what people like to read about. I don’t write about fashion and DIY stuff because I suck at it so I don’t really read blogs with that focus. Is it because their blog design is bad or their grammar needs improvement? No, it’s just simply because I like reading certain things. I do like when writers put themselves out there, but for good intentions. You can tell when someone is writing just for likes/sympathy or when someone is writing to turn their experience into a lesson to be learned from. It shows bravery when a writer delves into their self and shows their flaws. My husband doesn’t understand how I am so introverted in real life but, not in the blogging world.

    I don’t care what people think in the blog world and hopefully one day can feel that way in real life. Oh and I love the fact you read a billion posts every day too ha. Sometimes I am all prepped and ready to write a post…then 2 hours later I am still scrolling through Blog Lovin ha.

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    • @Shawna P.:disqus BlogLovin’ is such a timesuck! Have you ever heard the term “clock sucker”? It’s one of those things that draws you in and makes you lose track of time? That’s what I call BlogLovin’. A total clocksucker. I can lose hours once I get on there! I read the blogs I follow, then I explore the popular posts, then I look at the blogs similar to the ones I already love, then I find new blogs, and on and on it goes. I love it though especially when I find a post or blog that fits all the stuff I talked about up above in my post.

      I used to be super introverted in real life and pretty outgoing online but I’ve worked through some of it. I’m like, how can I have all these things to write about and nothing to talk about? Now I’ve started bringing up the things I’d write about in conversation and see where it goes. Sometimes it’s awkward but what can you do other than ask about the weather?

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    • Thanks so much Regina! I appreciate that and I agree that our words should be chosen wisely. They hold a lot of power and I think it’s important to put positivity out there instead of using our platforms to drag everyone down.

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  7. I enjoyed this, I liked reading about what you enjoy reading about when you visit all the various blogs you visit. Thanks for sharing! It is true a vulnerable post draws me in too, and I enjoy reading it because it a chance to really know the person. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • Thanks Felecia! I know exactly what you mean about those vulnerable posts. I love when I feel like someone online is being genuine. I love authenticity. When I feel like someone is really opening up it draws me in and, since I feel like I was able to connect with them, I’m more likely to return and read again.

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    • Hey Jennifer! I know exactly what you mean about that list of a hundred mistakes. It can be so overwhelming and it often feels like what we’re confronted with is all of the things that we’re doing wrong as a blogger. We hear enough negativity and I felt the need to put something out there that is a bit more loving toward those bloggers I enjoy reading. I’ll stop by this evening and check your site out. I love meeting new bloggers and I really appreciate you stopping by and saying hello.

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  8. Thank you for sharing this Ashley it really inspired me to keep posting and to especially post more things that come from my heart. I try hard to be myself in my writing while keeping a professional approach to it as well and it’s hard to straddle that line because often times I’m like OK is this an over share. But knowing that people who allow themselves to be vulnerable is important to you and most likely other readers helps me to open up a bit more.

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    • Thanks Winter! I stopped by your blog earlier today and poked around a little bit. That cookie con you shared looks like it was so much fun! I’d love to find something like that here in Atlanta. I love when bloggers are open and vulnerable in their posts. It makes me feel like they are being more genuine. It also makes me trust them more when they share product reviews or they use affiliate links. When I feel like I know them as a person I feel like I can believe them when they are sharing something for profit because I’m less likely to feel like they are only out to make a buck. Does that make sense?

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  9. Great post! If I don’t relate, I don’t read….but I sure wouldn’t waste my time berating the poor blogger! The blog world is big enough for everyone and what I love the most is that there is always someone writing a post that someone else will be able to relate to.

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  10. Hi! I just found your blog through pinterest and wanted to let you know that you have truly blessed my spirit with this one! I read a few of the post that you mentioned the why I don’t read your blog and felt like the wind was knocked out of my chest. Although i think it’s helpful to know why people don’t read your blog It’s A GAZZealION more times helpful and encouraging to know why they do! Gosh seriously….thank you! this I printed out to remind me on those “self critical days” to just keep being authentic!

    thanks lover,

    Liv

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  11. I loved this post!! There’s so much negativity in the blogging world and I’ve definitely been awful with it. I recently kind of restarted with my blog and decided to just do my own thing and not care so much about what others do.
    I also like reading genuine posts where people show vulnerabilities, because that makes me feel that I’m not alone, that there are other bloggers who are just ordinary people, and that those people are true and sharing from real life. I’m interested in people and to read about other people’s lives.

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    • Thanks so much Susanne! You absolutely shouldn’t care so much about what others do. When I first started out I was criticized for talking too much about my faith but it’s a big part of who I am so I kept talking about it. I eventually built up a strong faith-based readership who then got upset with me if I didn’t constantly write faith-based content. I really let it get to me for a while until I realized I need to focus on writing what I want to write and the right readership will find me. It’s worked out perfectly. I hope you find your blogging voice and it all goes well for you.

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  12. I read about 5-10 blogs on a regular basis. I like blogs that are from a different perspective from mine, for example, I read a blog from a woman who lives on the bread line, one from a disabled serviceman and another is written by someone from the LGBTQ community.
    I like to learn something about your life and about who you are.

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    • Hazel, I absolutely love why you read the blogs you do! It’s fantastic of you to read blogs that are outside your own perspective. I agree w/ you about wanting to learn about someone’s life and who they are. That’s what makes this blogging world so interesting. It’s about new discovery and I’m so glad you embrace that. Thanks so much for coming by and connecting with me. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • You’re my favorite book blogger though! You have been since 2010 so I’m definitely not going anywhere. I don’t DIY either b/c I’m so not a handy person but I like fashion posts. I have no fashion sense of my own really so I like to copy other people.

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  13. This is great! I am a brand new blogger (from Rome, GA, not far from you!), and it’s so nice to get tips and advice from well-established bloggers. Also, I am a HUGE fan of positivity and optimism, and the fact that you put a positive spin on something negative makes me truly love your blog! Thanks so much for this!

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    • Thanks Maegan! I noticed that you connected with me on social media too so thanks for that as well. I love connecting with my readers both on and off the blog so I hope to hear from you again. I’m a huge fan of positivity as well so if I can spin it with a silver lining, I will. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  14. What a great post! As a blogger its important for me to understand what readers want. Otherwise, what the hell am I doing this for! Lol. Im not a DIY person either. Home Depot gives me anxiety.
    I look forward to reading more of your posts!

    Stephanie F

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