I know that the people being addressed in this post will likely never see it. Yesterday those people unliked my Facebook page, unfollowed my Twitter account, and unsubscribed from my blog on BlogLovin’. I know this because I’m a complete statistics whore and I obsess over numbers. All of the unlikes, unfollows, and unsubscribes happened after I said one thing.

I support the SCOTUS decision to legalize gay marriage.

So let’s talk about it.

The United States Supreme Court has recognized the right for homosexual Americans to join in a legal, government-recognized, union of marriage. It grants these people (PEOPLE! Human beings, just like you and me) the right to share in the same benefits and privileges that heterosexual couples share. I’m talking about taxes, health insurance, rights-of-survivorship, etc. I’m also talking about the legal right to pledge your life to a person that you love while having that commitment celebrated with your closest friends and family.

It’s a beautiful thing. GORGEOUS. I’m so proud of SCOTUS.

Now, I’m a Christian and I believe in an all-knowing, all-powerful, all-loving, all-forgiving, perfect God. I live by, and I’ll die by, my faith. It’s an essential part of who I am. I’m not ashamed of it and I fully believe in it. I also firmly believe that the legalization of gay marriage is not a religious issue.

Friends, there is a separation of church and state for a reason. I am not disputing the belief that the United States was founded by Christian men. I’m simply recognizing that those same men realized, and accepted, that not every single person living in the colonies in the 1700’s was Christian. They understood that people had fled here to escape religious persecution. They did not want to live in a place where they were forced to obey a specific religion nor did they want to be persecuted because they didn’t follow a specific religion.

I believe, and it’s possible I’m wrong, that they recognized that people deserved the freedom to make their own decisions regarding their lives.

You see, I believe our country’s fathers recognized the right to free will, the same way that my God recognizes our capacity for free will.  Whether or not gay people in the United States can enter into a legally recognized marriage is not a religious issue. The decision by SCOTUS to legalize gay marriage doesn’t force religions to accept or recognize the marriage. The Catholic church doesn’t recognize marriages that take place outside of the Catholic church (or at least at one time they didn’t, I can’t say for certain that’s still true). There are other religions that won’t recognize a marriage if one party in the marriage isn’t of the same faith. Religions have the right to not recognize gay marriage if they don’t want to but there’s no reason to meddle in matters of the state.

Here are two major things that my Lord has taught me through His words and His actions:

Actions Speak Far Louder than Words

It doesn’t really matter what you preach, what parables you tell, or how much Scripture you quote; if your actions don’t match your words no one is going to listen to you or your testimony. Jesus embraced the lepers, the prostitutes, the destitute, the outcasts from society. He loved them. He embraced them. He adored them. He saved us all. He wants us all to love Him and follow Him and He brought us in to the fold through love.

He Wants Us to Recognize We’re All Sinners

Here’s the cool thing – we’re all forgiven. Here’s the awful thing – we’re all terrible sinners. God wants us to go forth and love one another. He wants us to embrace one another and share His message in love. You see, if someone said to me, “Do you think God likes homosexuality?” I’d say no. I’d also say that I don’t think that God likes premarital sex, lying, gluttony, pride, and harsh words spoken in anger which are all things that I’m guilty of having done. I was with my husband sexually before our marriage and it wasn’t a one-time thing. We were together for over 6 months and I know God didn’t like it but I was doing it anyway. I’ve lied and I can be prideful. I get angry and I say harsh ugly things that I know God wouldn’t like. We’re all in the same boat folks. God doesn’t like things about all of us but you know what? He loves us all and He wants us to love one another as well.

So, do I care that SCOTUS has recognized the legality of gay marriage?

I sure do! I love it and I think it’s the right thing to do.

You see, to me it all comes down to one major thing: I believe that people are born gay. I don’t believe that people are “turned” gay, I don’t believe that someone consciously decides to be gay, and I don’t believe that people can be “turned” straight. I believe people are born to be the way that they are. I also believe that all children are children of God’s and I don’t believe that gay people are a mistake. I believe that God created and loves each and every one of us equally.

One of these days we will all die and on that day we will stand before God and we will have to answer for our lives. I don’t want to have to say, “I’m sorry I shared a message of hate to those who sinned differently than me.”

The message I want to send about my God is that He is a God of love and forgiveness. He is a God who is always standing there with open arms waiting to hold you, comfort you, and tell you that He loves you.  He is not a God who is condemning SCOTUS for recognizing love. So to those of you who unfollowed me yesterday, or who will unfollow me today, I’m sorry that you feel so differently than me and I’m sorry that you’ve chosen to disconnect from me but this is a place of all-encompassing love.

An open letter to those who unfollowed me for supporting gay marriage