Over the last few weeks I’ve had more and more friends (digital and real-life) reach out to me about our journey to becoming parents. A couple of even said, “I am praying for your baby” which warms my heart in so many ways! The kindness of others has been overwhelming and I feel truly blessed to have such goodhearted thoughtful people in my life.
In case you’re new here, let me fill you in; My husband and I have been married since 2011 and have lost two pregnancies to miscarriage.
One of our biggest struggles has been reconciling Psalm 37:4 with our inability to have a child.
Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. – Psalm 37:4
It’s hard to read that and then wonder why we haven’t been able to have a child if God will grant us the desire of our hearts and our desire is to have a family of our own. Recently a few good friends have all offered the same advice and I decided it was high time to take it to heart. They have each said that it is possible that God is not saying no to our prayers and wishes but rather that He is saying not yet. For some reason that we do not yet understand, God wants us to wait.
So, we wait.
What I continually try to remind myself is that accepting that we must wait doesn’t mean that we stop trying, that we stop dreaming, that we stop hoping, that we stop talking, or that we stop praying. In fact, just the other evening we were sitting and dreaming of our yet-to-be-conceived child and we settled on a name for our baby girl should one every join our family (a name that you will learn later if she is ever on the way).
I just keep going back to friends (real-life and digital) saying, “I’m praying for your baby.” I keep thinking about my own prayers. I’ve spent a lot of time praying that we have a baby but I haven’t actually spent much time praying for the baby itself.
Last weekend I decided to change that and while I wait for God to bless our family with a new addition I’m praying that our child…
Lives a life of love and shares the love of Christ with others.
And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. – Ephesians 5:2
Walks in integrity with the Lord as the light unto their feet.
The righteous who walks in his integrity— blessed are his children after him! – Proverbs 20:7
Has a spirit of power and self-control.
For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. – 2 Timothy 1:7
Shows mercy toward others as our Lord is merciful toward us.
Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful. – Luke 6:36
Becomes strong and courageous despite the darkness in the world.
Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.” – Deuteronomy 31:6
Showers others with kindness and does not seek revenge or retribution.
See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone. – 1 Thessalonians 5:15
Inherits the servant’s heart of their father.
…rendering service with a good will as to the Lord and not to man, – Ephesians 6:7
We also pray that when we do finally have a child of our own that God grants us patience with our new addition and that we remember to give ourselves grace as we know the virtues of God must be taught through the spirit that dwells within us.
Did you pray for your children before they were born? Any other favorite verses or virtues that we should consider praying over while we’re waiting to conceive?