It’s Official! We’re Adopting
The last few weeks around here have been full of some pretty intense discussions all surrounding the same topic – family. Brandon and I want to be parents so badly but it’s been tough deciding which road to pursue in order to best make that happen. We have talked about continuing to try and wait… but that hasn’t been working out so well so far. We have discussed IVF and other fertility treatments but that doesn’t feel like the right path for us. Our hearts just aren’t in that. We have discussed adoption and all of different paths that proposes. Ultimately, this weekend, we decided to move forward with the adoption process.
We couldn’t be more excited!
IVF and fertility treatments were a topic of discussion for a while but the more we thought about it and the more we prayed about it the less it felt like the right path for us. We didn’t feel like God was telling us to see a doctor and make a baby. The more we thought about it, prayed about it, and talked about it, the more we felt like the right thing for us was to adopt.
The next question was, “What’s your adoption criteria?” and that’s all we’ve talked about over the last few days. As we discussed it I found my husband was being very hesitant. After a little bit of prying on my part he said to me, “I just want to be sure that you are sure. I want this to be something you want. I want this to be something you really want to do.” After I assured him this is exactly what I want to do and exactly where my heart is at he said to me, “I feel the same way. I just needed to know you aren’t settling.”
He was concerned that I felt a maternal need to hold a newborn or give birth but I don’t. I feel the need to be a mother but I don’t feel the need to be pregnant or give birth. I want us to be parents but I don’t feel the need to be the mother of an infant.
We have a few appointments coming up to meet with an agency and start our case file. I’ll update you on our progress, most likely on my Facebook page, but other than occasional updates about our meetings and our progress I won’t be sharing much on here. I won’t be sharing information on the child we ultimately plan to adopt because that simply isn’t my story to tell. At this point I feel like we need to respect the privacy of the child (not the baby, the child) we will be bringing in to our family.
When he’s here, when we are able to finally bring our little boy home I’m sure he’ll be making an appearance on our outings, our family vacations, and in with our dogs. What I won’t be sharing is where he’s from, why he was available for adoption, or anything about his background. That’s his story, not mine.
For now, we wait but we couldn’t be more excited about this waiting game.