The Best Parts of Marriage

Marriage is absolutely fantastic and, if you ask me, these are the best parts.

This year is going to ring in 5 years of marriage for Brandon and I. I’ve spent the last few weeks trying to decide what to do for our 5-year anniversary. There is part of me that wants to take a weekend getaway to Savannah, GA since it’s so closeby and it’s a top romance destination. The other part of me wants to hop on the train and take a real weekend getaway to Washington D.C. since I haven’t been there in a few years and D.C. in May is beautiful! I’m a woman divided. It’s a tough choice.

It’s romance vs adventure. It’s hard to choose.

When you know our story it’s easy to lean toward adventure. We’ve had a whirlwind of five years. It’s included 4 moves (on my part, 3 on his), 3 different states, 1 major health crisis and a surgery, 3 jobs, 2 miscarriages, and 2 dogs. Our life together, it’s certainly been an adventure.

Brandon and Ashley LaMar

But I also love the idea of settling down for a little romance. Sometimes it’s nice to get away from the craziness and just hole up in a B&B for a weekend (dog-free hopefully. Anyone in Atlanta want to dog-sit? ;-). 

When we were talking about the trip the other day Brandon said to me, “It will help us decide where to if we decide what it is that we really want to celebrate.”

I looked at him kind of dumbfounded as I stuttered, “Ummm..we’re celebrating us. Our marriage.” as if he didn’t already know that.

He laughed at me and said, “Yeah, but let’s pick the best things about our marriage and let that lead.” So, that’s how it came to this post.

We Support Each Other

One of my favorite photos from our wedding was the one of my husband comforting me when I got emotional during my Dad’s speech. My Dad had just shared his appreciation for the grandparents that were able to attend and mentioned that he wishes his parents could have attended as well. That crushed me. We lost my paternal grandmother the year before our wedding and my grandfather was suffering from major health issues and dementia which kept him in the hospital. It broke my heart that they weren’t there and as soon as my Dad mentioned them, I started to break down. Our photographer was able to capture this moment between us and it sends my heart a-flutter every time I look at it. This is everything I love about my husband in one photo. His care, concern, compassion, empathy, love, and protection all right here.

Wedding of Brandon and Ashley LaMar

We always have a great time

My husband is my very best friend. There isn’t a single other person in the world who ‘gets’ me like he does. No matter where we go, we have a great time together. That’s one of the best parts of marriage, knowing that my favorite person in the world is always around. Whether we go to the zoo, to the aquarium, to the dog park, to dinner, to a concert, etc, it’s fun. When we make memories, we make awesome memories!

Eminem at Music Midtown in Atlanta, Georgia 2014.
Eminem at Music Midtown in Atlanta, Georgia 2014.

We Nerd Out Together

As a blogger, I look at everything as a potential blog post. A new concert downtown? Blog post. A new restaurant? Blog post. Bought a new candle for my bathroom? Blog post. It’s constant and as such I over-photograph everything for Instagram, live-tweet just about every event we attend, and am constantly looking for a way to blog about every single thing that happens. It’s nerdy, and I know it.

My husband on the other hand, is very connected with the entertainment industry here in Atlanta so we take advantage of a lot of the conventions and the filming that goes on around here. Visited Snuck on to The Walking Dead set? Done. Ate at the restaurant used a set location for the new Sandra Bullock movie? Done. Not to mention it’s only 1 mile away. Stalked the filming set of a new TV show trying to catch a glimpse of the stars? Done. Attended entertainment conventions and parades? Absolutely. Taken photos with Star Wars people? Indeed we did. 

We embrace our inner nerd-dom and it’s so fabulous.

Ashley and Brandon with Chad Coleman from The Walking Dead
Meeting Chad Coleman from The Walking Dead

We Can Unwind with the Family

This past summer when we spent the 4th of July in West Virginia with my family, my husband stole my heart again when he played Badminton in the rain with the kids. None of us adults wanted to go out there in the muddy grass and play Badminton while it rained, but Brandon did because he can’t say no to kids. I cheered and took pictures (and stayed dry). 😉 It’s also nice to know that as much as we love living in the city and keeping busy, we can unwind with the family, in the rain, and still have a good time.

Playing in the rain

We Share Adventures and Explorations

Everywhere we’ve ever lived, we’ve arrived and been all in. When we lived in Alabama we did attended old movie showings at the historic theater, went to the historic museums, explored the Space and Rocket Center, attended a horse show, a demolition derby, a few fairs, and really tried to embrace the local culture. When we moved to Florida we went to minor and major league hockey, baseball, and football games, partied in downtown Tampa and Ybor City, had picnics with our pups on the doggie beach, went to Disney and the amusement parks, and really got in to Florida living. When we moved to Atlanta, we did the same thing. We’ve visited a lot of local hole-in-the-wall bars, eaten at a few of the high-end restaurants, shopped all the malls, visited the museums, attended the theater, and (of course) attended a Braves game before they move north to Marietta. Everywhere we go, no matter what, we explore the hell out of a place and make tons of memories as best friends.

Ashley LaMar in Atlanta Georgia

So, with that all said I think I’m leaning toward Washington D.C. because I feel like are do-ers more than romance B&B weekend retreat people. Although, Savannah has it’s appeal too.

What are you favorite parts of marriage? Where would you go – Washington D.C. or Savannah, GA? Where do you think we should go?

Ashley LaMar
Ashley bounces between Atlanta, GA + Charleston, WV with her husband and two small dogs for life and work. If she’s not writing or blogging, she can usually be found cooking, reading, or watching baseball. Follow her on Twitter @ashleyfromfbl

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