We are coming up on year-end and you know what that means, right? GOALS! I know it seems like one of those things that is all trendy and everyone talks about these lofty goals that they are going to achieve in 12-months and you kind of roll your eyes and think, “Yeah right…” It’s totally natural because y’all, goals are HARD! They are hard to set and they are even harder to achieve, especially if you don’t have an accountability partner or someone to help you stay true to the path. That’s why each year Brandon and I sit down and talk about goals together. It’s never about, “I’m going to…” it’s always, “We are going to…”. It helps to keep us bonded as a couple and it keeps us working toward the same goals.
Hooray for being partners and on the same path, right?
So, the other day, my darling husband and I sat down and decided to come up with a few goals to achieve in 2017. Then I told him I was going to share them here just in case they may inspire you to set a few of your own.
Brandon & Ashley’s Life & Marriage Goals for 2017
Have a baby!
Ok, so kidding but not kidding. That’s been a goal for 6 years so it kind of goes without saying that it’s on the list. Moving on…
Travel at least 3x a year
This one was a tiny bit of a debate but only because we couldn’t really agree on how often to travel and what “travel” really meant. I was saying I wanted to travel 2x a year and that “travel” meant going somewhere either out of state or out of the country for at least 5 days. He was saying he wanted to travel 4x – 6x per year and that “travel” meant anywhere outside of Atlanta for 2 nights or more. Eventually we settled on 3x a year to a location outside of the state of Georgia for at least 3 nights. #Compromise
Oh, and that doesn’t include any trips to see family so I kind of won there. 😉
Right now we are planning trips to the following cities in 2017…
1) Orlando, FL (although I’m not sure that counts since it’s at New Years)
2) Charlotte, NC
3) Denver, CO
4) Minneapolis, MN (if Orlando doesn’t count)
Prep and plan ahead for our lives
I know what he was doing when he put this one out there for our 2017 goals and I let the sneaky snake get away with it. See, I spend so much time prepping and planning my blog (here) and my business (here) that I don’t always set aside the time to actually prep and plan our lives. Now, this is usually the moment when people shriek, “Yeah but you’re busy!!! He can plan too!” and while that’s true there are a few things about that I should address.
1) He’s super busy too.
2) He sucks at planning.
3) We each have a “role” in our marriage and kind of stay in our own lane. My lane is planning. He then executes my plans and makes me stick to them.
Prepping and planning includes scheduling appointments in advance, setting our household and business budgets, and meal-planning so we stop spending so much money eating out (which will translate into recipe posts on here I’m sure).
Double our savings and save for the future
Speaking of saving money on going out…this is a pretty lofty goals for us because our investment savings is already in decent shape but we figure that between the income I make from my blog, the income we each make from our side hustles, and our careers we should be able to accomplish this in a 12-month period.
We have expensive things in our future like buying a home and hopefully raising a family so we figure we should bank as much as we can while we can.
Restrict tech time and focus on each other
At first I got a bit defensive because I thought this was a #subtlenotsubtle jab at the amount of time I spend tied to my laptop and phone because of my blog, biz, and social media accounts. Turn out, I was just being hyper-defensive (because I lied a moment ago when I said “a bit defensive”) because we are both guilty of “phubbing” each other at different times.
That’s what happens when we both work online although the other night we realized it had gotten out of hand when I spent 4 hours on my laptop after getting home from the office working on a blog post and content upgrade for my biz site. Then, he started playing Titanfall 2 and I watched Cupcake Wars on Netflix via my tablet and we didn’t speak to each other for hours.
It’s not a healthy way to maintain a marriage so now we are setting restrictions on when the laptops close, when the phones get put away, and when we invest in “us” time.
So, cheers to a happy and healthy 2017 to everyone! May we rejoice in celebrating that the insanity of 2016 is finally coming to an end.
Do you set marriage, relationship, or lifestyle goals? Have you determined what your goals are for 2017? I’d love it if you’d share them with me!