I’m quick-tempered. I don’t deny it and I can’t hide it. I’m explosive. When I’m angry, I erupt and often lose control of my voice and my words. It’s a struggle and it’s one of my greatest sins. It is one of the things that I study and pray over continuously.
There was a time in my life, many years ago, when I used to try to justify and downplay my anger. I’d say things like, “Well, if they hadn’t… then I wouldn’t have… ” and it made me feel better about my temper. It wasn’t my fault I was angry, it was their fault I was angry at them. They shouldn’t have provoked me. I’d say it to my mom, to my sister, to my friends, to my husband. It was out of control.
It was ugly. My heart was ugly.
Do you know what I eventually realized?
Those were the excuses of an abuser.
Abusers often deflect and blame the victim. We hear those guilty of physical abuse say things like, “I’m sorry I hit you but you shouldn’t have made me mad.” or “I wouldn’t have done that if you hadn’t…” It’s no different with verbal abuse. When I finally recognized that my lack of control over my temper was my fault and that I was verbally abusing those I love by unleashing my anger I realized, and accepted, that it was time for me to change.
I turned to where I always turn when I’m struggling and I need guidance, my Bible. It’s not surprising that the Bible has a lot to say on anger. It’s an ugly thing. It can make us say things we don’t mean, hurt the people that we love, and lead ourselves down an evil road.
I know I’m not the only one struggling with the sin of anger and wrath so I recently sat down and identified 12 of my favorite Bible verses about anger.
12 Bible Verses About Anger
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. – Ephesians 4:26 – 27
But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. – Colossians 3:8
A man of quick temper acts foolishly, and a man of evil devices is hated. – Proverbs 14:17
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. – James 1:19 – 20
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. – Proverbs 15:1
Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. – Galatians 5:19 – 21
Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools. – Ecclesiastes 7:9
Wrath is cruel, anger is overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy? – Proverbs 27:4
Be angry, and do not sin; ponder in your own hearts on your beds, and be silent. Selah Offer right sacrifices, and put your trust in the Lord. – Psalm 4:4 – 5
But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to his brother, ‘Raca, ‘ is answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell. – Matthew 5:22
But refuse foolish and ignorant speculations, knowing that they produce quarrels. The Lord’s bond-servant must not be quarrelsome, but be kind to all, able to teach, patient when wronged, – 2 Timothy 2:23 – 24
Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil. – Psalm 37:8
- Do you have any favorite verses about wrath or anger?
- How do you control your temper?